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How to take successful photos?
How to write an introductory letter correctly?
Correspondence - how and what to write in letters?

How to take successful photos?

All remember the old, but not losing its significance statement that a man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears. At the stage of the first acquaintance, the man hardly can evaluate Your charm or intelligence. There are high requirements for the photo you wish to put in the catalogue of the marriage agency. We need to have at least your two photos - a full-length photo and a portrait photo. Pay your attention that photos with "cropped feet or a head" make a bad impression. So, we insistently advise You again to save Your time, money and nerves, and visit a real photographer. As it is known, there are no ugly women, but in our case, there are - because of a bad photographer.

There are many photographer's studios, but as a rule, those photographers specialize in passport photos and in photos on various types of documents. There are modeling agencies in your city, but their photographers ask too high a price for the photos, which our women cannot pay - alas!. Your agency should know the photographers in your city and advise you which one to use. You may have friends, who have good pictures - ask them what photographer they visited, and have your photos taken at that photographer's studio. The photos should be made by a professional photographer - it is unequivocal, even if You look perfect in your amateur pictures. Nobody argues: in an <informal> situation, when your friend takes pictures of you, it is much easier to be yourself, to smile, strike relaxed poses. But the quality of the photos made by <a simple film camera> leaves much to be desired after scanning them. For sure, you have some such photos - where your face is blurred and where there is wallpaper or a carpet on the wall in the background, and a portrait photo taken by a simple film camera will not be good, however hard you may try. But such photos also may be used - when you started your correspondence, for sure, the man will want to see Your photos in Your everyday life. Change your photos. If one <set> of your pictures had no success - address to another photographer, or to the same one, if it was pleasant for You to work with him/her, but You will come to him with another mood, in other clothes. The photo is that what attracts attention. Men fall in love through their eyes! Show yourself. Long hair, a short skirt are so popular among Western men, who are already tired of girls in unisex clothes.

Probably, before your photo session you need to talk to your photographer, he will advise you what dress to put on, what hairstyle to have (and if you need it in general), what make-up will make you look better in the photos, etc. AND THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS A SMILE! Girls with a smile in their photos receive a large number of letters. You do not need to say that a smile does not suit You - there are no such people. Your calmness and elegant appearance will guarantee You success when taking pictures. Everything you need is to look natural. You should give an impression of openness, kindness and warmth. Certainly, there should be a part of sexuality, but do not confuse it with vulgarity. Each of us is able to pretend to be a languishing and mysterious person, remember how top models from the covers of magazines look and try to do the same. When taking pictures it is absolutely necessary to apply make-up. If you do not put on make-up at all, nevertheless try to hold on yourself and put on some make-up using pastel shades. Even if You have a perfect complexion, your skin will look rough and reddish in the photo. Over your toner, put also a layer of powder to prevent shine on your face. About eyeshadow, it would be better to use brownish-grey tones without nacre. Refrain from using bright-blue, violet or pink colours. When applying eyeliner, do not draw thick lines along your eyelids. It looks vulgar and makes you look older. It is possible and even necessary to apply more mascara to the lashes, it will give expressiveness and depth to Your look, but only do not apply colour mascara. Your eyebrows should not look too thick or thin. Line them a little, for this, you may use not only an eyeliner, but eyeshadow of a suitable colour as well. Adding a little rouge of apricot or brownish tint gives you a healthy and sexual look. Do not forget to use a lip contour pencil. Full lips do not need to be reduced. In the West, celebrities spend thousands of dollars on operations to fill their lips with silicone gel to make them full. Full lips look more sexual. Too thin lips can be corrected by a lip pencil and a lipstick, but you should know when to stop.

Take a cosmetics bag with you to your photo session to correct your possible flaws. Probably, You may feel that you have too much make-up on, but look at girls from the covers of women's magazines like "Cosmopolitan" - all the models wear tons of make-up, but they look quite natural. Your hair should be clean and well-groomed. Keep your long hair down, men just adore women with long hair. Remember that for Western men, long hair is the sign of feminity. Nobody knows what suits you most of all, except you - skirts or trousers, blouses or tops, but nevertheless, we will give you some advice about it. First, the clothes should be simple and elegant. It is better to choose a dress or a blouse revealing your neck and hands. Evening dresses that reveal a neck and shoulders look strikingly. But this is your choice - You know yourself what to dress to show off your figure and to hide the possible flaws of your body. If You wish to show off Your beautiful legs, it is not necessary to wear a miniskirt. At times, it looks a little defiantly. It would be better to put on a long skirt with a deep slit revealing Your feet (it is even more sexy). If wish to be photographed in a bathing suit - you can do it not in a photo studio, and on the beach or in the gym (but not on the floor in your home!) About the colour of your clothes, it is better to choose white, dark blue, red, grey or black, but only not yellow, orange or green. You, for certain, know what colours suit you more. For example, dark blue clothes will give a bigger expressiveness to the look of a blue-eyed girl. If all the details of Your dress are sustained in one style and colour, it will give You a big elegance. We categorically do not recommend you to put on a sweater, a T-shirt, jeans - beautiful, elegant clothes showing off your figure is that what distinguish our women from American ones. Certainly, it is necessary to choose footwear to match your dress. Try to avoid wearing high platform or thick heels shoes or boots, such footwear visually makes your feet look ugly. It is better to adhere to the classical style and to put on high heel footwear with spike heels.

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How to write an introductory letter correctly?

Things you should and you should not write in your introductory letter

The presentation is a dispatch of your introductory letter to men through e-mail, whose biodata correspond to the parameters of your search (age, height, the country of residing of the man, etc.)

. Do not repeat the information, which is already in your profile. Of course, You want to "love and to be loved", but it is not necessary to repeat the same things using different words. It is enough to say it once.
2. Never use the following phrases:
"You make an impression of a very sincere, kind person".
"I saw your photo and profile".
"I have seen your profile on the site and decided to send you this letter".

The letters are sent to men automatically in concordance with Your criteria. Many men do not put their photos and/or profiles on the website.

3. You should not write as if you already know something about this man. You do not know anything about these men, and therefore should not draw any conclusion concerning the men. Never use the following phrases:

"You are my one and only".
"I feel we have much in common".
"You seem to be a kind and nice man".
"You seem to possess everything I need".
"You are my dream..." and etc.

Please, remember: You do not know almost anything about the man at first. Your intro letter is the only informative letter. 4. Avoid writing boring texts like:

"I am a very sensitive, loyal, modest, open, faithful, romantic, caring, pretty and kind woman. I am fond of different kinds of music, reading, the outdoors and many romantic things. I am looking for a faithful, kind, strong, understanding gentleman". It is appropriate to use such adjectives only in the profile on our site.

You should write the concrete things about yourself, instead of using empty abstract phrases. MORE DETAILS: What kind of music do you like? Why? What do you read? How do you like to spend time outdoors? Why? Do you have any specific and interesting hobbies? Give any specific details and cases (as far as possible) regarding it.

5. The letter will be sent automatically to the men chosen by the program according to the criteria, established by You. Some men write in their profiles that they are not interested in having children or pets. Therefore, try to avoid mentioning children and pets in your letter. You can write about it in your reply letter.

6. Many girls write about traveling. Describe the details and share your experience, or else it is not necessary to mention travelling. Often girls make an impression that they intend to travel constantly. It scares men away.

7. Avoid telling about the following things in your into letter (BUT You can write about it in Your reply letters):
- the philosophy and abstraction on the subject of love, life, relationships etc.
- the general allegory
- the poetic descriptions of romantic dreams
- the long geographical details of your hometown.

8. Try not to use the following phrases and words like:
"I hate lies and betrayal" - This is so negative.
"If you can give me all of this, write me" - This is so practical.
"Now I would like to tell you some words about myself" - This is a meaningless waste of words.
"I really love people, life and living".
"I love family coziness".
"I like to communicate with people".
"I adore keeping the house, cooking, to make my house cozy".
"I enjoy to communicate with my friends".
"I like to cook tasty dishes for my friends".
"I just adore romantic dinners with candles..."
Almost every girl uses the phrases.

Things You should write about in your first letter: About something personal and special concerning only You. Describe a couple of the REAL LIFE EVENTS in MORE DETAIL. If it is not Your personal experience, but someone's else and you learnt from it. The details brighten the boring facts up!

The most important things: 1. How did You know about Your agency? Why do You use the services of the marriage agency? Why are You not married yet? Why do You seek a man abroad? Why do You not want a Russian man? You SHOULD explain and answer all these questions in more detail referring to your personal experience. Maybe, You heard any stories about happy marriages with foreign men from your friends, relatives, on TV or from newspapers, etc. 2. If You love the sea, explain why or briefly describe your wonderful holiday at the seashore. For example: "I remember seeing the sea for the first time, I was 6 years old... It seemed to be the boundless dark blue space. Since then I have simply adored spending time on the seacoast, listening to the noise of waves, enjoying the salty sea air with a breeze in my hair. It is so pity that I seldom manage to go to the seashore!" If You like working at your dacha, explain WHY? For example: "Because beautiful birch trees surround the house and I like the smell of fresh turned dirt". If You like cooking, give the details: "I like to cook pies with berries that I pick in the forest". If You like travelling, give a detailed description of any your travels. For example: "I traveled to Lake Baikal on a very slow but scenic train ride. The lake first appeared as a mirror of the sky."

The special experience concerning something important is the strongest. For example: "I had to work that summer in the open market in order to support myself. It was a very hard lesson. That is why I seek a high education." 3. You should use humor! And add words "smile" or even "ha, ha", or smiley face symbols :) after a humorous statement to let the man know that You are joking. You should write letters in the form of dialogue with the man asking him special questions about what he thinks, etc., and also asking rhetorical questions, such as: "Do you agree?", "Right?", "What do you think?" (You agree? Yes? What do you think of it?), and so forth.

1.You should answer the most of the following questions: Where do You work? Do You like your job? If yes or not, You should explain WHY? Maybe, there is something special and interesting at your work. It can be both good and bad things. Just, give the details. 2. You should tell about Your hobbies and interests in more detail. Why do You like it? How did You discover this hobby or interest for yourself? 3. You are divorced: Why did Your marriage fail? What did You learn from it? What mistakes would You like to avoid in your next marriage? 4. Is there something INTERESTING in Your life? What distinguishes you from all the other girls seeking marriage abroad? What is happening in Your life? Good luck!

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Correspondence - how and what to write in letters?

Many clients do not know what to write in responses to men. We hope that our recommendations will help Your girls in correspondence.

The letters which come are quite different: they can be detailed, can contain the description almost all the life of the man and be absolutely short (if it is interesting to you, write to me). Certainly, first of all the big letters are interesting to You. But do not hasten to throw out others - the short ones.

Not each person can openly write about himself and be honest with everyone telling her about everything. So, the short letter may conceal the person whom You are waiting for. So, we advise You to answer all the letters the men write you. First, we would like to warn You that western men have absolutely a different view on the age difference question. For example, quite often You can meet 45-50 year old men who say that they are absolutely serious and at last, have decided to create a family. Well, if he is healthy and confident that can provide for his future children - why not? When the initial stage is already behind, and at last letters from men and responses to your letters began coming to You, - What next? What to expect from the correspondence?

The man has chosen You from hundreds of other women in the catalogue or from tens who have answered his ad. He has ALREADY chosen You, in other words, he considers that in general, You fit him.

Why will he not marry You at once? Because he should be convinced of making a right choice, and the most important thing, that he fits You. He is interested in finding a lifetime partner - she should be an intelligent, decent, responsible, caring woman and the most important thing - she should be sincerely interested in him. BUT: man needs an earthly woman, not a perfect one. So, do not be afraid to show your imperfection. Tell about your blunders and mistakes, as well as about your successes. Although, the excessive independence of Western women irritates Western men, the Western man looks for a woman as well developed and interesting as Western ladies, with only one difference - that such woman could love him. If you manage to prove to the man that you are such a woman, he will choose you. Only correspondence will help you to convince your chosen one that you are - THAT LADY. First of all, answer his letters on time - at the initial stage man has some women whom he corresponds with (the same as you have men, right?), therefore, You need constantly to draw his attention to yourself.

Here are some examples you can ask in your first letters: - About Russia (Ukraine, Belarus, Kazakhstan etc.): what he knows about Russia and what he thinks about it, if he has friends in Russia, why he has decided to meet a girl from Russia; - About his job: where he studied, how long he studied, if his job corresponds to his education, what exactly he does, how hard he works, if it is really interesting to him, if he likes his job, what prospects he expects in the future, what goals he set for himself, what career he wants to make. About life goals: what goals he has in his life, what he strives for. - About relations between a man and a woman: what he appreciates in the relations, what he cannot accept, how he imagines his perfect partner, what he is ready to forgive and what he will never forgive, what he sees in a woman: a partner for everything, a friend, a lover, a housekeeper, a mother of his children; what he expects from his marriage, if he looks for a girl only from Russia, or this just happened casually. It is very good if you begin discussing any subject, then Your man will be waiting for your letters impatiently. It may be that all the other letters will not be interesting to him - and this is Your main goal! The man should feel constantly that you are interested in him. The men turning to the dating agencies are usually shy and doubt that an intelligent, educated and attractive woman can be interested in them. Give them such confidence, and you will be picked at once from a number of other candidates. Ask the man to tell more about himself, about his family, brothers, sisters, parents.

In the West people value family ties very much. If he has children who live with his ex-wife, find out how often he sees them. Ask him to send you their photo. Find out what kind of music your man likes. Ask what his favorite albums or CDs. Get the same CD and in your next letter tell him about what you felt when listening to the music for the first time. If you read an interesting book or article, watched a movie, share your thoughts with the man and ask for his opinion. Tell him what you think of events and latest news - the man should see that you are interested in things and events around you and that you have your own opinion of the things happening right now.

Never write things like this: "Things are the same for me, I have nothing new". If you really have nothing interesting in your life, make your uninteresting story interesting! Do not rest on your laurels. From time to time have your amateur photos taken, it is advisable to take photos in the process of your activities - in the gym, on the beach, on a ski trip, sitting behind your computer. Try to reveal your real existence to the man step by step - you do not want him to be shocked when seeing you in private. It is good if there is a date on your photo - it will give him the feeling of your being real.

Do not let your man be bored. Do something new and unexpected, but not too frequently. Send your letter before you receive his reply to your previous letter, - just because you are "missing" him. Take a number of photos of your city and send them with your personal comments on the back - this is my school I went to, this is my office, this is my boss, this is the central square of our city etc. You need to push the man for each next step unobtrusively. You are not going to have a correspondence with him forever? Your relations should develop dynamically. At the same time, there should not be the impression at all that you are in a hurry. If during your correspondence, you understand that the man does not fit you, tell him softly about it, "Dear John, it is not so easy for me to write to you about it. But I have been corresponding with a few men. Now I have already made my choice. It was wonderful to correspond with you. We can continue our correspondence if you desire. Your friend, Irina". Or something like this. Break off your relations at once if you see that the man does not fit you. It is not a game, they are alive people with their own attachments and feelings.

During the acquaintance through the Internet, telephone conversations play a significant part. If after getting several letters you feel that you like the man, give him your home phone number and the most convenient time for calling you. If you have no home telephone, as well as possibility to use your office phone, try to arrange the phone conversation through your friends setting up the time and the date of the phone call in advance, without telephone conversations your relations may seem unreal to both of you.

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